There has been much hype recently (on my fb newsfeed) about this article. Which has sparked great bemusement in me because of all my friends claiming to have been introverts all along.
This is what the article says:
“So here are a few common misconceptions about Introverts (I put this list together myself, some of them are things I actually believed):
Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.
Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.
Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.
Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.
Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.
Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.
Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.
Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.
Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.
Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.”
Once people read this there was a huge scramble toward joining the 25% of people labelled as “introverts”. This scramble was conducted in the oh so human (i.e. unsubtle) way of making comments that suggest a deeper, more sensitive, misunderstood level of one’s personality without coming right out and saying “hey, i’m an introvert, i’m smart and artistic!” In one day half of my friends became misunderstood wandering minstrels who were at odds with the world because of their unique ways of thinking and independent spirits. Odd that I hadn’t noticed before.
What’s so great about being introverted? It’s not necessarily better than being extroverted. At least you’d fit in more. It’s just that there isn’t a similar article written about extraversion that subtly hints at the superiority of that camp. And most of the descriptions in here are not mutually exclusive with extrovert descriptors.
Why do humans try to portray themselves as introverted?
Why do we try to appear smart?
Why do we try to appear like we’d make super loyal friends?
Why do we try to appear as though we are people of substance? (How can we all be people of substance?)
Are we that desperate for other people’s admiration and approval?
But what does it all matter?
lz’s parents say i laugh a lot. what they don’t know is that 90% of the time i laugh, i am laughing at the silly foibles of humankind. If one cannot find the humour in those, one is likely to sink into an incurable depression at the state of pretentiousness of her fb friends. Perhaps it is that fb as an institution encourages pretention. Encourages one to write things like “I am a philosopher at heart” in his About Me section. Encourages others to post inane incoherent messages like “omgomgomg :D :D” that fish for compliments and beg people to ask what amazing achievements they have accomplished to date without being overtly hao lian. Encourages everyone to value the opinion and acceptance of their facebook friends through shameless self-promotion over actual warmth, and humility, and kindredness.
So after all these years…
The cheese stands alone.